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Q: How do you deal with the urges?
A: First of all, I’ve learned to distinguish “good urges” and “bad urges” because not all sexual urges are bad, and I don’t intend to be celibate. Unlike alcohol/drug addiction, this isn’t an addiction where I’m supposed to stay “sober” forever.
A lot of times I have these urges because of other things I’m going through, like stress, anxiety, depression, insecurities, etc., which lead me to cope via sex. When I realize my sexual urges come from these things, I first distance myself from my phone and any distractions. I do breathing exercises and reflect on what the deeper issue is, and I occupy myself with something else I like doing.
